You know, if my boys wrote a book about their poor, pitiful lives (from their perspective) I'm sure I'd come off as an awful, mean, spiteful, non-cooking, make them work all the time, kind of mom.
As a parent, I did some things I'm not too proud of...but at the time it felt right and I thought I was doing the right thing, but in hindsight, things could have been handled differently. I also did a lot that I am extremely proud of, but for some reason, my boys just can't get that laugh or reaction they were looking for, so they sometimes tell things that make me cringe...it's just not the whole story.
I didn't attend some school functions, because I never got the notes. No cookies or treats after school, because they ate the weeks worth in one day. No friends in the house, because I was working and didn't want them alone with no supervision. Slapped one boy, because he was 16 and was mad and called me a name. They spent a lot of time being grounded, for breaking stuff in the house. I said the F word one time...and not F for frustrated. Trust me...there's lots more. I'll tell you here that my oldest son, oooh when he was around 14/15 was dealing me fits and one day, and I laughingly told him that new mother hamsters sometimes eat their first born litters if they get too nervous...you should hear the way this little story has been repeated. I know...I never should have said such a thing, but I thought it was funny at the time. Can you imagine how this could be made to sound in a tell-all???
They could dwell for hours on how hard I made them work around the house. They didn't realize, that mostly I was trying to keep them busy and out of trouble...anyway, I'm getting off the subject of grown children writing tell-all's about their lives. About their parents. About their suffering. About who they blame...
I'm not a fan of Martha Stewart, but what is it with kids writing these horrid books about their famous/or even non famous parents? Why do they tell family secrets/stories, why is it so important? Are they justifying their own lackluster life? Just trying to make some bucks? Do they really feel that they suffered? I read that she divulged that Martha sometimes leaves the bathroom door open when she uses the toilet.....wow!!! It was then reported on my opening AOL page that Martha has this disgusting habit. Oooh my...??!!! She said there was no food in the house...well my boys could say the same thing. I'm telling you hear and now that one time I made, from scratch, over 200 chocolate chip cookies and my boys ate them in one day. No way was I going to do that again for a long time... There were no treats in the house for weeks after that incident, then, store bought treats became the norm.
If it got right down to it, my mother could blame her mom for all sorts of stuff, I could blame my mom and my boys could blame me... I've heard parent blaming from my friends, coworkers, gosh, complete strangers will tell me about their horrible childhood. It almost becomes an identity for these people. I know, I know...even the courts recognize childhood traumas as a defense...so who am I to be critical??? BF has commented that sometime in a person's life, they've got to just look into a mirror and see who's looking back at them...and blame them.
hmmm...sins of the parents??? visited...hmmmm