I’ve been gone for the last week. I’ve missed your posts, so in the next few days I’ll try to get caught up.
I went to Florida. We drove thru Missouri, Arkansas, Mississippi, Alabama, Florida, Georgia, Tennessee, Kentucky and Illinois. 2700 miles round trip…
The reason for the trip was that BF’s mother passed away the first of March. She was a strange person…I talked; I should say listened, to her on the phone, twice. She didn’t have friends or relatives near and that was the way she wanted it. She had her religion…and I say “her” religion as she was an ordained minister with no flock. She had her beliefs and that was the only way to heaven, as she saw it. She argued with all, as hers was the only way….
She was also a hoarder and extremely fearful of everyone, including family. She distanced herself from her boys and their families. There were no celebrations. Birthdays and holidays were not observed. She didn’t attend weddings or family gatherings. She didn’t know her grandchildren or great-grandchildren. She didn’t visit, and didn’t want visitors.
She had given thousands of dollars to various TV evangelists and local churches…no one noticed her passing.
She was a hoarder. I’ve seen TV programs about this, but real life was even more shocking. This hoarding was hidden from the prying eyes of outsiders by putting aluminum foil and sometimes furnace filters in the windows. All the windows were barred and curtains closed…a prisoner in her own home.
We had ordered a dumpster, but needed three or four. She had lived in a retirement community and a neighbor suggested that we just put some of the items in the yard. He said people would take the stuff… I didn’t think this was a possibility, but they came. Dumpster Divers is what they’re called. It was unbelievable… They took the strangest stuff. Lamps with no shades, shades with no lamp, speakers, jars, glassware, shoes…sacks of hosiery, old purses, old glasses, silk flowers, magazines, any and all furniture. Bibles…she had hundreds of bibles. Rooms full of religious tapes, cds, discs, DVDs. They took it all. We sold stuff too. Hospital beds, canes, walkers, wheelchairs, mattresses, some pieces of furniture…and no, she hadn’t been sick. These were just things in the house.
So where do I go with this post? Hoarder direction? Dumpster Diver direction? Do I post more about this woman? To me, the very contradiction of what religion and faith should be about? Do I write about the road trip through the states?
No…nuf said! I’ll just end this post. I’ve got to get busy cleaning out some of the strange silly stuff I hoard….errr...collect...